Hello LifeInProgress: I don't know as there is really much I can offer with regard to this. But I noticed no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would.

I'm an older person. And I lost my sexual ability many years ago to a combination of surgery, depression, anxiety, & antidepressants along with some other stuff. (And, truth be told, I was not sad to see it go.) Since then I've become pretty-much entirely non-intimate, non-sexual. I just prefer to be left alone.

Things do change as one ages. On the other hand, they don't change for most people as much as they have for me. I do think it is a most positive sign that you have been able to re-orient your goal toward intimacy. I have the feeling that could be a major hurdle for many men.