Interesting that you remarked that you wish she didn't have any boundaries. Everyone has boundaries! A T will have more than a friendship, or a partner-ship-it keeps both people in a more "healthy" space. I know you said you wouldn't stalk her (and I believe you), but remember that she has previous experience w you crossing the line sometimes into her personal boundaries. You said she showed you her pictures of her kids-but that was AFTER you saw their pictures on FB, right?

In an ideal world, I am guessing T would share everything about her life to you? How would that benefit you? Also-it is rare that any one person shares "everything" with just one person. I think it is healthy to share your needs around. I went (sort of still going) through a situation recently w a friend where I was needing too much from her-a HUGE fear of mine. She didn't exactly put it that way, but my insecurity was driving her away.

What I am trying to say is that it's good for people to have boundaries, even though it does hurt.