So H has old girlfriend from 20 years ago who he STILL talks about. As far as I know she didn't have a boyfriend for years and years and has finally started seeing someone and they've been together maybe 1 1/2-2 years. I know this because I snoop on H's Facebook. H used to send her messages and stop by her place unannounced (usually after drinking) when I would be out of town. He never told me he did this, I just found out by snooping. I think the times he did stop by she wasn't home and the messages never went beyond him suggesting that they should have a beer because he usually realized what he was doing and would back out of it or she simply wouldn't respond. Funny how as soon as he figured out she was dating this guy, the messages and random stops by her house stopped! Gee if you're "just friends" then why would they stop??

I have never met the woman in the 7 years I've been here and as far as he lets on, he just occasionally will "like" something on her Facebook page (and if by sometimes he must mean 99.9% of the time because he "likes" nearly everything that she puts up but, funnily enough, when there's a picture or mention of her boyfriend, he doesn't like it!) and that's as much as he says he has anything to do with her. Yet her name comes up in conversation a few times every month for no reason like "Oh Jen got me these when we were dating" or "Jen and I used to go to this one bar" or "Jen picked out this jacket for me back in the 90s and I still have it". It drives me nuts and he always says "Don't worry about anything happening with me and Jen. She's just a really nice person and we just weren't meant to be." I mean last year right about this time he sent her a message asking her if she'd take his 17 year old daughter shopping because she has an amazing sense of style and he just isn't able to convey that to his daughter! I only found this out because I snooped! He never told me this. Yes, why don't you have a woman who you say you haven't seen in years and who hasn't seen your daughter since she was like 8 take her shopping! And how would you explain that to me?? That never happened because he once again sent the message after he had been drinking and never followed up on it!

So now he's got a new job opportunity and was revising his resume last night. I read it over and changed some things and looked for grammatical errors. While I'm in the middle of doing that he sends a Facebook message to Jen and THEN tells me "Well you probably aren't going to like this but I'm going to tell you anyways. I just sent a message to Jen to see if she could review my resume. She's a technical writer and this is what she does. I appreciate your help a lot, but she has been doing this for years and she's really good at it." Well thanks for telling me AFTER you did it!!

I said I was okay with it, but I'm really not okay with him involving her in helping him. He has never asked for her help in any of the other resumes he's written. I mean how great that she is a technical writer and has an AMAZING sense of style. Meanwhile he's apparently saying I suck at writing and my style is horrible!

Am I blowing this out of proportion??