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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Sure Trace, you have shared some of your father's challenges and he tended to use alcohol to self medicate. Your father had challenges and I use the term disease but that could be illness, or mental health illness/challenges. To do what he did was something that challenged him to a point where he made that decision, and often that decision is about "self" and not others or involving lack of caring about others enough or thinking others are strong enough to handle their decision. I think that is something "most" survivors struggle with. It's a very complicated loss and hard to grieve.
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I just think it's a selfish act. That they are trying to escape their pain by any means possible and they go into such a dark place there's not room for anything or anyone else. Not that it's an intentional act of selfishness. He was an alcoholic, but not self medicate, he had just had a kidney removed a couple of weeks earlier. The only thing selfish is that he didn't take me with him. That's all.
I think most people in a suicide forum will disagree with suicide as being a selfish act. And they don't like the term committed suicide, like it was a crime. They prefer a person died of suicide, like a disease. The word committed never bothered me and it took a while for me to understand that it wasn't a selfish act, but I finally got it.