I guess after thinking about it...I'm selfish.
I indulge in my hobbies, spend my money as I please and travel and spend time with friends, as the occasions arise.
I also encourage my wife to indulge in her hobbies (and she does), visit her friends and travel (she does) and buy whatever she needs (she doesn't spend as much as me but she buys whatever she needs)
So, I agree...men can be selfish...if you define selfish as taking care of one's self.
But I take care of her needs too.