Hmmm... not sure I have heard that term. I don't know the context in which it was used, but if I were to take a stab in the dark at it, I would guess she's saying that you sometimes live in denial about the reality of your relationships with them. Like maybe you have convinced yourself that things are better than they are, or that you are closer (more bonded) to them than you are.

Does that sound like maybe it's close to what she means?

If not, could you tell us more about the context? I'm intrigued...

Angela