Hi everyone,

I've got a pretty bad situation with my mom and dad. I'm a grown adult an no longer live with them. My dad has had 2 strokes and has suffered brain damage as a result. It has caused him to become a very bitter, angry, hateful individual in which the only things that come out of his mouth are insults and complaints. He hates everyone and the world. He was never an overly affectionate person when he was younger, but he was still relatively happy and would offer advice and words of encouragement when we needed it as kids and young adults. He is now over the age of 65 and in declining health due to 2 strokes. He takes all of his anger and resentment out on my mom on a daily basis. Nothing she does is right in his eyes. My mom has managed to keep the house together and take care of all the financial matters and home upkeep by herself and she's done a great job. She does all this in addition to taking care of my dad who is in a wheelchair and has paralysis. I live near my mom and do not have a job outside of the home, so I am available to my mom to help her out. I also take her shopping and out to lunch to get her away from her situation. But I can see the stress and depression in my mom's eyes from all the verbal abuse she gets from my dad. I can see it wearing her down. I hate to say this about my dad, but I sometimes wish there was a place we could send him to live permanently so that he'd be away from my mom. Because it's not fair to my mom to live her remaining years (she's 63) being ridiculed, insulted and yelled at on a daily basis. We live in NC. Have any of you or anyone you know ever been in a situation like this? We can't declare my dad mentally incompetent, because he isn't. And he's not completely physically impaired so we can't put him in a nursing home. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.