I am going to concur with everyone else on here... but here's my stand point. I was dating a man who was a few years older than me. We had a very similar history to what you describe. Then one night he was mad that I talked to a different guy when we were out together and he threw a golf cart and physically intimidated me, grabbing my arm when I tried to walk away. I continued to see him because he apologized and was sweet and nice after. Fast forward three years... We are married and have a kid. And he's gotten worse and worse and now I feel stuck. If only I had taken that rough night as a sign of what was to come if I stayed, I would've left and would be in a different place now.