In the field of writing I think you have artistic license in your given genre. So I would say write away!

If you're thinking about publishing, then you might wanto think how revealing you are with this character to the public.
Amazon books & the fetish market is extremely hot right now. Seriously!

Do you wanto publish?
If you're writing for your own pleasure....then I don't see the problem. Yeah you might be over thinking this a bit.
My bdsm partner has written stories based on our scenes & I found it very flattering.