I stopped therapy about a year and 1/2 ago,after over 6 years of trauma therapy.And I was just thinking about the fact that my T didn't acknowledge holidays at all.He didn't tell me happy Easter,Happy Thanksgiving,Merry Christmas...he just acted like there were no upcoming holidays,even the times I had a session the day before.There were times I talked about how my holiday went ,afterwards,but never beforehand.

I assumed maybe he didn't acknowledge them because it would be too personal of him to do so,like maybe it would be considered crossing some type of boundary or something,but I really don't think that was the case now.

I am thinking now,well wondering actually,if maybe the reason he didn't was because growing up with so much abuse,so much trauma,it would be obvious that holidays would be hard,would stir up a lot of bad memories and emotions.Like maybe he thought it would be cruel to bring them up or something.

I am not sure though.

The reason I am bringing this up is recently I emailed him because I had a question,and after I received his reply,his answer,I replied back,thanked him and also wished him happy holidays.I checked for the next couple of days,hoping he would wish me the same in return,yet he didn't.

I don't know why I expected him to do it differently than he had through all those years of therapy,but it is bothering me now that he didn't,and I am tempted to send another email telling him how I feel about it.

I don't know about anyone else,but even though the holidays always have brought up bad memories and emotions,it still feels good to have someone acknowledge them,to have someone say "Happy holidays".It's something I didn't get to hear throughout my entire childhood,and I appreciate hearing it now.