I am so confused. I have just come from T and feel totally confused and worried. I told T about this problem I have with people. ie, This woman at work whom I've always got on with and liked said something a couple of days ago that has turned me off her. I said I'm trying to see her how i normally see her, but its hard. It was when we were talkinga bout womens rights in Pakistan and her husband is indian and her english and I was taken back by her comments as she was supporting the idea that woman should be kept in their place. Now T said though she too would have disagreed with that view, it would be "mad" to tell this person that I no longer like them becuase of whta they said. That the feeling of disappointment I have is an internal process and not an external one and if for instance I was to say to someone, oh I don't like you now because of what you said made me feel this way, that would be maddness and pyscotic. I said I had no intention of telling this woman how I feel, but what would be wrong with saying to someone that you felt let down now because of what they said? why is that mad? T said if they had abused me personally then yes, its an external event, I told T I feel the whole session we were "missing" each other. I really cant get what shes saying. I did say I realised I was giving this other person my power, but T said your not, its internal. that I have no resislence to being let down and so this feeling of devastation is inside me. I KNOW THAT, but I still connect the feeling with the person who said the disappointing words. But T said that would be maddness to blame the person. I said I'm not blaming them, but I can't seperate what they said to how I feel, then we seemed to be going round in circles and T said its internal process. I mean if I said I heard voices outside of me that made me feel let down, then yeah thats mad. I'm afraid to talk to anyone now incase I am mad and didn't know it. I wouldn't say to this woman you made me feel such and such wiht your views on women because thats not the kind of relationship we have. AM I mad here? is it mad to not like someone the same way anymore if they say something you disagree with? I could lie and say It hasn't bothered me and I see this person in the same way as I always have done, but I can't, I keep thinking about what they said and it makes me almost fear them I guess. Oh heck, maybe this does sound a bit pyshotic.