The whole concept of 'the one' is probably faulty thinking and causes a lot of heartache. I suppose you won't know for sure if he's the one until looking back over time. Only if it lasts, then he's the one. If it doesn't last, he's 'the one who got away'.

Since I've been with my husband for 25 years, half my life, he has proven to be 'the one'.

It was a very romantic story of our meeting and beginning. He told a girl, after I left the bar, that he had met the one and was thinking of names for our future children!

On our first date, I got in his car, he held my hand, and that was it. It just felt good and we've been together ever since.

Having our religious faith in common was important to us both, we must have discussed goals. I really didn't have anything I was driven to do with my life. He had his life roughly planned, in that he was about to complete his education and begin a professional career, but he didn't know where he wanted to go.

We really didn't firm up anything. We just enjoyed time together. I could tell what kind of a person he was by seeing him in situations like restaurants, with his friends, with his parents, with my parents, etc...

We got engaged after just six months of dating. He made the choice of where we were to live, and it was fine with me. I chose the house we bought a few years later, and did all the negotiating and closing on it by myself with out him, as he was already so busy and stressed with his job. I planned and did the whole wedding by myself, too, same thing.

See, he had that withdrawal and I was in charge of doing everything right from the beginning. That's where that issue began which eventually snowballed into big problems for us. But, I couldn't see that coming and allowed it because he was such a stressed professional, so I took on everything else, then resented it.

Because of our longevity, of course he is 'the one'.