Saluki, no one referrred to you or your words specifically; they're still discussing the other thread and people's opinions there.

It's not easy but possible to feel good about yourself and women by realizing that the people around you are individuals, not a "group". There is no such thing as "men" other than in a statistical average sort of useless construct. "All men" is a meaningless term just like the way marketers try to make a joint feeling of pain/hunger/sorrow, etc. Thousands of hungry children are no more hungry than one child. You can't get "more" of something by lumping individuals together unless you're doing group/mob behavior and there you don't have individuals.

It's our individual thinking that gets skewed; deciding that "men" (or "women") are a certain way limits us, not any individual men. We become blind to individuals by allowing ourselves to look at the world that way. Someone using derrogatory terms about me or acting poorly toward me just quickly confirms for me that they do not know me and tells me valuable information about them!