LMo you rock!!! I was thinking about starting something about the good men as well.

(I haven't read anything but the positives here)

I just wanted to talk about the wonderful man I have found. Sure I've been through my not so great ones but that was when I was a lot younger.

I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 40. It just happened that we were attracted to each other, not knowing each others' ages. I was shocked when I found out!! He was 39 when we started dating. I have to say that it is such a blessing to find one who's mature, who's been through the young and shall we say "thinking with the other brain" part of his life lol!!!

He is so caring and warm and puts me first. Sure, he's selfish sometimes but so am I. We went through a rough patch where I felt like I was playing third fiddle to his job and is sports. I thought I'd have to leave the relationship. What I tried instead was talking to him.

How simple.....yet so hard. I didn't want to sound like a nag. I wanted to be the "cool girlfriend" who has no problems, but that wasn't working, and it wasn't fair to him because I was developing all these issues but keeping them to myself so he had no way of knowing how unhappy I was.

It came to a head and I almost left him. But I told him how I was feeling, about how we ALWAYS watched sports.....and he was like "but I thought you enjoyed it??" Well....that was my bad. I tried to watch it all the time because he likes it and his job is stressful etc. But doing nothing but watching sports was driving me nuts lol. So after I tell him all this stuff he's like "I love you. You are the most important person in my life and I'm not gonna loose you. We don't have to watch sports all the time, I just thought you enjoyed it."

How simple. I tell him my needs and he says ok. And now I actually offer to put on the game when he's at my place. He's been a bit shocked, constantly asking me if I'm sure. But it comes down to feeling like I have a choice in the matter, not having it shoved down my throat. And at my place I can jump on the computer or crochet if I get bored with the game.

This a very simple issue (we've got others but thats for another forum lol). All it took was a little comprimise. The fact that he's willing to comprimise is another way that he shows me how much he loves me. He may appear selfish, but generally thats what I see if I don't speak up.

He's not the only good man I know. I know so many good men now that I'm getting a little older. Most of my guy friends are in their late 20's and up and they have finally settled down a bit and I love them all!!!

Men rock!!!!!!!