Ok thanks for the advice on the other posts. Someone asked for a little info. So my husband and I are both 40. We have been married for 21 yrs dec.28. We were 18 when we got married. I have been a housewife the whole time. So we went to therapy yesterday. I thought our dates that we have been going on were going good we both said so. Well I found out. That some time he likes it some times he didn't want to be there and when we went out he said it feels like friends not a couple. He said he was still confused about me said he loved me didn't want to hurt me. He also said there were times he wanted me to spend the night but didn't tell me. He likes being single and his independents but then misses me. At the end he said he has been trying I believe that to a degree. And he is on the fence one side divorce other side me. So our therapist said take a couple of weeks off no contact at all with each other unless he reaches out. This is going to be a hard two weeks we have Christmas he has no family around then your anniversary is the 28th, new years then his birthday. Wow I'm a hot mess right now.