I can relate as I am very inquisitive about my therapists ' personal lives for better or worse. Kashi is married with two children but the more I get to know him I have a strong hunch that something else is up. Maybe he isn't gay or bi but I get the feeling his marriage may not be traditional and I'm dying to know what the arrangement is. Partly because i am so bad at romantic partnerships it is helpful for me to know what all spectrums may look like. Kashi had hinted that I may fall on the asexual spectrum although he didn't put it in those terms. Believe me I googled everything about every possible relationship type to see if I have been looking at my own situation the wrong way. I don't think I'm anything more exotic than an unsuccessful straight lady who is afraid of intimacy, but there are aspects of the asexual community which are kind of sweet, sort of an extension of what kinds of relationships are possible.
Kashi had mentioned that not all marriages involve sexual intimacy, that there are a whole range of relationship types. I said yes I'm aware and I started listing the ones I know of. When I got to mixed orientation marriages he changed the subject. Was I too close to the mark? It would be helpful to me if we have a non traditional relationship style in common even if it isn't exactly the same. I just can't put my finger on what his story is and just makes me more curious.
Maybe your interest in your t's life is to compare and understand how others have relationships? We only hear about a narrow range in public and in the media. Maybe seeing the type of guy she is into tells you more about her and your reaction may tell you what you may be seeking in the next stage of your life.