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Old Dec 18, 2016, 06:43 PM
leejosepho leejosepho is offline
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Even though I am not completely abstinent, I have managed not to cause any more harm to myself and I found a system that works.
With gender apologies here: "If anyone who is showing inability to control his drinking can do the right-about-face and drink like a gentleman, our hats are off to him. Heaven knows, we have tried hard enough and long enough to drink like other people!" (page 31)

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I have tried AA. I had tried rehab, all with failures because I was punishing myself and shaming myself....

I think if you forgive yourself, and not shame yourself you may see things differently. That was the hardest thing for me to do...
I say that a little differently by talking about no longer "playing God" and judging myself as good or bad or even in any way at all, but yes, all of that perceived shame and condemnation had been needlessly self-imposed.
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