mellors, you reposted that as i was typing so thats why i couldnt read it and its not unnecessary, i was defending myself. and sorry, when it says re:salukigirl i assume its directed at me.

my cat has been throwing up hairballs so i didnt have time to go through and read each individual post - i have been using up all the resolve lol

i thought that once i graduate high school it would all change. then i thought, well maybe freshmen in college havent gotten past it yet, then sophomore, then juniors etc... im not blaming men for what they do or how they act but there is no denying the domestic violence facts or the fact that every day no less than 3 women die from domestic violence from their partner.

im not blaming men for it, im saying we need to change their situations from the get go. my ex boyfriend was very abusive in all aspects but his father had abused him and his mother left him when he was young. so i dont blame him, i have compassion for him. (took a few years for me to get that but i did).

what really sucks is that the people that understand that its not a man's fault why he is the way he is, figure that they cant do anything about it.

so in no way was i trying to bash men. i was actually doing the opposite. and sorry, once again, that i didnt see your posts because it took so long for me to re-post while chasing my cat around hearing hacking all morning.