My question to you is it normal to post the same question, get sensible suggestions and refuse to heed them? I do feel for you. Sounds like a hellish situation. I know because my experiences with my mom growing up was quite similar. Verbal, emotional abuse. Gentle hugs. I say heed what people told you. Because what is the use of asking for advice if you continue to ignore it? Why do you ignoring what others told you to do? Maybe there's a valid reason.