Or you could search the woods high and low until you're exhausted and frustrated and you still won't find a unicorn.

I get wanting someone for the holidays - I do too. But I know I'm just not ready to date. If I don't like myself, I can't expect anyone else to like me. Now I could try to work on myself or I could throw a tantrum and blame it on everyone else..... Which one do you think would be more effective?

I also don't drink, smoke, do drugs or party. But the last time someone found that weird or even cared about it at all was in high school. I'm sure there are still people out there who do find it weird but those aren't the kind of people I want to hang out with anyway.

You've been trying and trying and only getting frustrated so obviously this isn't working for you! And the more frustrated you get, the more pushy and the more you scare guys off. Why not just take a break from dating and first of all relax, get away from the frustration, work on yourself, get your life in order, grow up a little and then look for the right guy?

And like other people have suggested, try being friends with a guy first. Let them get to know you for who you are without trying so hard to impress them, you never know what might grow out of a friendship.