You're entirely missing what everyone has said to you. No one has suggested you sit there and wait for a guy to come along. Instead, we have all suggested that you ACTIVELY WORK ON YOURSELF in order to become a fuller, happier human being-- both for yourself and so you will become a more appealing partner to the kind of men you're looking for. To clarify, no one is suggesting you change your personality or your values (no drinking, virginity, etc); we are mererly suggesting that you develop your talents and potential. For instance, you say you like music journalism-- so why not apply for a job or internship in the music industry (receptionist, assistant, etc) just to get your foot in the door. Or why not take some college classes in journalism? We are trying to explain WHY many of the quality guys you want to date might be saying "no." Regardless of what they tell you (since most probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and will use excuses like "I'm busy" or "I don't want to date" despite actively mainatianing a profile on a dating website), the reason for many of them may be that you don't have a job and live with your parents. You can call men jerks all day long saying the reason must be your pictures or your virginity or your not drinking-- but that probably isn't true in most cases. Most of us on the forum have said it's great that you know who you are and most of us would be open to dating someone who doesn't drink, is a virgin, etc. Most of us would not want to date a party-girl/party-boy. Yet, just about all of us have said we would not date someone who didn't work in some capacity. If you have the ability to pursue your interests and make something of yourself, but choose not to, that's going to be a red flag for most people. If there is a reason why you're choosing not to either work or go to school or do something that will lead to financial independence, it really may be worth talking to a therapist to understand what is going on. Your parents are not going to be alive and working full-time forever so, at some point, you are going to have to start supporting yourself. It's also true that, when it comes to dating, someone who is happy with their life and has things to talk about (their passions, daily activities, job, friends, hobbies) is going to exude positive energy and be more attractive than someone who does not. I am only saying this to try and help you, because you don't seem to understand (or are choosing to ignore) all of the advice everyone has given you and make up alternative reasons why all guys who aren't interested must be party-boy jerks.