You completely missed the point of Artchic528's experience. She is working on herself so when she does meet someone she will be able to have a healthy relationship. It is about personal growth. It is not about making a guy like you.

I am going to say this as plainly, and as nice as I can. I have read a lot of your posts and responded to a few. I get the distinct impression that you want others to bend your way, or be bent by your will, but you are unwilling to grow. That is what Artchic seems to have done and is still working on(we are all works in progress), I am not familiar with her story other than what I read in this thread so I don't want to put words in her mouth or act like I am speaking for her.

You have a lot of issues that frankly are the sort I would expect out of a 15 year old. Living with your parents and issues using too much water/electricity. Needing advice about what to do if you bump into an ex. You don't drive, if I remember correctly because of your parents telling you they don't want you to. The thing is that you are 29!

Anyone interested in someone your age, regardless of your gender, will expect that you are your own person and if not totally independent, working on it by actively going to school or in some sort of job training. At the very least they will be working whatever job they can find.

You are also extremely forceful. You want a guy on your terms and schedule requirements, regardless of his wants or employment demands. You have been told repeatedly that this is a serious issue. To be blunt, it throws up all sorts of warning flags.

I have somewhat been in your position, I understand your frusterations. I wanted desperately to date. It was painful that I was alone on my birthday, holidays, etc. The one thing I took away from that time of my life, and I was around your age, is simple. Desperation is a repellent. Once I got a handle on myself again, I was able to start dating again because I could present myself as a (sort-of) healthy adult. As you can see in my signature, I have some issues.

Some of the best relationships I have ever had with women started as friendships. Most never went beyond that and they are the best relationships I have ever had. Having friends is a good thing. Why spend the holidays with one person if you have friends? I have also learned that friends you make might have friends that might become more than that to you. Worst case, you made another friend. I used to use online dating services and it never felt right at the time. I know now, that is because of several reasons: It puts extra pressure on people, dating is stressful enough! It emphasizes dating over friendships, and that is skipping a step.

I don't know if it works the same in reverse, but being alone vs being with a group can make a huge difference. If I am by myself, I can't even get cashiers to notice me but if I am in a group or even with a single person, people notice me, respond to me and in much better ways. One of my most enlightening moments on relationships came way back in 1998 or so. I was with my best friend I have ever had. She is awesome in every way. We were meeting at some lame piano bar that she likes, I got there about an hour before she did. No one even noticed me. She shows up and the way people reacted to me changed 180 degrees. I still think it is an odd thing. You don't need to date to have friends and it is probably best if you don't date them first, that can cause issues.

I respect that you want to stay a virgin and aren't into partying. Those are things that should not be compromised if you believe in them.

You want:

• A guy with a full time job - very reasonable but you don't see the contradictions with your own life?
• A guy that can talk/text up to 18 hours a day - See the above
• You want the above from first contact - Can't you see how demanding and overwhelming that can be?
• A guy who will not be into partying or premarital sex - Very reasonable
• A guy who loves going to lots and lots of metal concerts - A guy who is into this scene and meet your non-partying and sex requirements will be an extremely rare fish

You are simply meeting the wrong type of men in the wrong places. Well, it is more than just that.

If you can became independent, be your own woman and confident and this is important, not come off as extremely needy, things will change. You will be able to present yourself to men as a healthy adult and you will find that men respond so much differently to you. It is hard work to progress personally. It is messy and painful but that is how we grow.

Nothing works for you because you do the same things over and over and refuse to grow up.

To add to all that, you misinterpret what people tell you or you just dismiss it. You have been given a gift of others experiences and insight and you don't use it. The amount and quality of advice given to you in your threads is staggering. Why do you ignore it? I know you hate being told this, but you should seriously consider a therapist. I am not claiming you are mentally ill, but a neutral third-party might help you sort through your frustrations.

You want things to change? You will need to get out of your comfort zone and grow as a person.