Selfish could be defined as an action my ex-husband took. He had the children and I going to the food bank to get food, because money was not in the bank for groceries, meanwhile, he would suddenly show up with a $5000 piece of computer equipment. When I confronted him about it and asked if we could take some of his computer money to buy food, he gave me $50 to buy the basics. That was a selfish man.