My father reminds me of my past self-harming. Though he isn't doing so to rub my nose in it or hurt me. It usually comes up as reference to my previously being in the lowest of the low as comparison to my relative good health. Look, self harming for me was about wanting to get noticed - wanting people to see the pain I was going through. The fact that my father talks about it today is only natural considering I had wanted him to notice when it was done.