Personally I don't get the whole online dating app thing, but I know people it has worked out for. You mention several times talking/texting throughout the whole day and into the night. I'm wondering if it is too much communication all at once -- a bit overbearing in such a short amount of time.
I know the men I actually ended up dating were people I got to know first over a period of time. We had a few brief conversations here and there; we were involved in common activities or events; we ran into each other regularly because our paths just naturally crossed on a regular basis. Over a period of time, we got to know each other and eventually one or the other of us suggested doing something together; things just developed from there. I think if I had just met a person cold and then spoke to them for hours right away, that would have scared them off (or me off) -- too much too soon. Kind of smells of desperation a bit. But again, I know nothing about online dating sites, so I could be off. I know the people I am aware of who actually did meet someone and start dating from an online site took a bit of time also. I think people can spend too much time communicating electronically that it sets up a sort of artificiality that can't live up to reality.
As far as when to ask for dates goes . . . again, in face-to-face dating, that just seems to have a way of developing over time. In my case, the guys always asked first, but I don't think that necessarily really matters. And does it actually have to be a "date?" How about just agreeing to meet for lunch and each of you pay your own way? Chasing? I found the "chasing" was mutual for the most part. When we hit it off, we were both very mutually involved in communicating and investing our time in the relationship. And it wasn't always "dates" so much as just hanging out and exploring things together. Maybe just walking the mall or going to a park or out to get ice cream or something. I think sometimes the pressure of "dates" is a bit unnatural. Relationships that actually turn into something substantial tend to be more about just getting to know each other in more informal ways.
Last edited by Anonymous50005; Dec 19, 2016 at 02:33 PM.
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