UPDATE:

I went ahead and messaged the 1 month guy and told him this

ME: "I want you to be honest with me right now, do we pan to date ever again or not, I want a serious answer right now, so we aren't wasting each other's time wondering and waiting around. So whats your answer, please be honest and tell me here and now."

HIM: "I want to date you. But I'll be in Houston with my brother for the next few weeks. Please talk to me while I'm gone. I've been stupid busy lately. I'm sorry I've been neglecting you. I do like you. I want to see you again."

ME: "I do feel neglected and if your going to be off visiting family, focus on them, I don't want to come in the middle of that. I am just tired of these games all of these guys. including you, keep playing with me. And I don't know what to do anymore."

HIM: "No games. Just a ridiculously busy life. I'm sorry I don't have much time. It's not how I want to live."

ME: "As the saying goes, when a man likes you, even the busy-est man will make time for the female he likes, no poor excuses, or weather conditions or this or that will get in their way if they truly like the person and want to date them and be with them etc."

HIM: "OK."

So now what should I do?