Thanks Nammu, that last paragraph is extremely helpful. I hadnt ever thought of putting it that way!. Last time I tried to leave him he begged me not to because in his own words "please please dont leave me, I'll have nothing" & idiot that I stayed but over the last couple of yrs hes been saying things like " I have embraced my mental illness and I am happy as I am", "I'll akways find a woman to feed me", " only you think theres something wrong with me, I'm happy so why should I change?" & the all classic " who said I need to work, I dont have to because society thinks I should".
But here is my problem, he always said those in jest, whilst laughing and joking.
Obviously he was serious but me thinking how bizarre nobody would really mean that, it went right over my head Duh.
Thats been my constant battle his bizarre utterings have been soooo bizarre I have rationalised to myself hes joking.