Do you think maybe it's time to try a different way of dating, such as maybe through current friends or focusing on meeting new friends, so that there isn't any pressure, and you are more likely to find someone who shares common interests? Maybe hanging out in a small group and meeting guys that way?

Or there are 'meet up' websites too that center more around common activities, where it's a casual place to meet people in person, rather than behind a screen. Nothing beats seeing how someone is in person, and it's a more laid-back approach. Through meet-ups or friends, you may also be more successful finding a guy who lives in your area.

You like concerts a lot, so maybe a friend of a friend can introduce people to you. Not necessarily in a "being set up with someone" type of way, but to get to know different people and see who you are most compatible with. Just some ideas.

It might be more fulfilling to focus more on making new connections, whether friends or otherwise. Then, things are more likely to fall into place naturally, and you are enjoying yourself in the process, rather than stressing yourself out about these guys online. All this going back and forth with messaging and worrying when the person is going to text you back or show interest is causing you a lot of anxiety and even affecting your self-esteem, clearly. Also, as far as the chasing goes, I believe it should go both ways, where there is no "chasing," but mutual feelings of wanting to connect where it goes both ways.

It just seems like the Online Dating thing isn't working out as of now, and it is causing you more trouble than it seems worth, so why not try something a little different?