You said before that you want a man so you have someone to go places with. You can focus on finding friends to go places with for now. You said meet ups you went to had all drinkers and druggies. Don't know what are those meet ups but I've met great friends in Meetup groups. No drinking was involved. Maybe you choosing wrong meetups. Try the ones that aren't focused on clubbing but more intellectual ones or movie groups. Those are always good.