I think we all look for help with our uncomfortable feelings? It's nice when T "supports" how we feel as being a feeling we are allowed/"expected" to feel given our backgrounds and experiences. I don't think that's the same though as "agreeing" with our thoughts behind our feelings. We feel X way because Y happened and that makes sense but as time changes, we should be able to adjust the feelings, not get "stuck" in them because of Y which happened long ago? To remain stuck in them, through ignorance or unwillingness to change is truly "mad" to my way of thinking.

My husband and I are trying to make out our wills and it's a little entertaining because he has 3 sons and is going the "traditional" route of wanting to "protect" me if he dies first and then all the money gets divided between his three sons after I die. I'm being "greedy" and wanting control of all the money (if he dies tomorrow) as I may live another 30 years and who knows what things will be like then? I want to be able to leave the money to whomever I choose, be the eccentric old lady LOL. There's no "right" answer, it's wholly "feelings" based on who we are as people.