Wondering what you all NEED in order to have an orgasm either when you're alone or with a partner? For instance, when I'm masturbating I need the following:

an empty bladder
to not be thirsty (I know, weird but true!)
to be very comfortable
to hear sexy talk even if I have to do the talking myself

If I'm with a guy, I need all of the above plus:
to be freshly showered and feel clean
for him to be gentle
oral and for him to act like he's enjoying it
no pressure to have an orgasm

If any of these things aren't present, it's just not going to happen. Also, I never realized how high maintenance I am....