Tish & Nammu thank you both sooo much. You are both lifesavers
So today hes called my parents, all my siblings and their spouses as well as work colleagues and left messages on both my personal mobile and on call mobile.
My younger brother bless him is fantastic. Together we had a 3 way phone discussion with my lawyer who's written him a letter stating exactly why I left and what would have to occur for me to even consider going back - your idea Nammu .
The conditions for me returning are, he sees a psychiatrist and does as directed but given in this country he can refuse all treatment we have asked for his diagnosis so he cant say the shrink has said theres nothing wrong with him. He also needs to see any therapist as directed and needs to find work. Hes work shy and doesnt see why he should work so wont. However its putting the ball in his court so we can say he chose not to save the marriage. Hes always blamed me for everything this way I am not to blame.
Feels sooo much better! ��