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Originally Posted by JustJace2u
I'm definitely gonna give it my best, but at the same time, it's that whole 'old habits are hard to break' mentality. I've spent most of my life trying to make everyone else happy that I've always put myself on the back burner. I know it isn't healthy, but it's just the way I am. I grew up thinking I had to 'buy' a friendship because otherwise I felt like I had no friends.
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Sorry you've grown up that way
I hope you don't try to buy friendships anymor. You don't deserve to be abused like that. No one does.
I only have online friends, but I'm okay with that. I used to get abused by my real-life "friends", but then I realized over the years that they weren't "friends" at all. They just wanted my money and other things from me, as I was the only one who was always left out. So I'd rather be alone than be surrounded by a bunch of useless people.
All in all, my advice is to treat yourself like Wander said. You deserve to be happy. It's hard to break that mentality (I know because of what I said above), but it can be done by taking little steps.
For starters, you should take the time to figure out what you enjoy doing or something that you know can benefit from, then get other people involved. For example, maybe take a lunch break at work and ask someone to go with you to get some delicious takeout food that you normally don't get. Or maybe host a small party at your place