I never was friends with her. My boyfriend has his own facebook page that I set up for him. I let his kids know and they all befriended him, plus some of his grandkids. His family lives on the other side of the country and he doesn't see much of them. This was a way for him to see nice photos of family gatherings. They seemed glad to have him in their loop.

He has mild dementia and needs my help to access facebook. I show him pictures that are nice. If he makes a nice comment, I type it in quotes . . . with his initials after it. (They know he can't type on-line.) Rarely do I put anything from me there. When he's been sick, I've used his fb account to send updates to his kids in the form of private messages. (Like when he was in the hospital.) They have messaged back "Thanks for the update."

One of his children noticed my fb page and requested to be fb friends with me. I accepted and don't take any of his stuff personally. He "likes" different things I put up that are just good natured things like pretty scenery where we live. He's the one who posts a lot of extreme nasty political stuff, but I don't take that personally.

What his daughter posted may have had nothing to do with me. I need to just stop thinking about it. I probably shouldn't even message her updates. She takes forever to even acknowledge them. (They are very few and far between - like maybe 3 times in the past year, involving her father going in and out of the hospital.) She seemed really glad of getting one of them. I only do this to save her having to call me. I know she doesn't particularly want to talk to me on the phone.

I need to not make any assumptions and put less mental energy into this.