I realized years ago, that void can never be filled. But I don't believe the answer is trying to fill it. The answer is to build around it.

Imagine a bomb went off (trauma), and left a huge crater (void). The crater is so big, you can't fill it. You can try, but it just can't be filled. So what do you do? You can't move away, it's your life. So you build around it. You add family, friends, pets, jobs, hobbies, entertainment, etc. The hole is still there, but as you build up, the hole seems smaller and smaller and smaller. Then at one point, you look over your hole and you realize how much greater your life is compared to the trauma and the void left behind.