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Originally Posted by ~Tsunami
When I asked my T if we were doing okay, which I have a lot before, he usually says we're fine. The last session, he said, "The therapeutic relationship is fine." He specified the therapeutic relationship, which is a total change. I also felt a kind of change in how my T was doing things, but can't verbalize why or what made me feel this way. I am so numb in my stomach area which is where my abandonment fears live, that I have lost weight from not eating. I didn't eat lunch today because I forgot. I worry that T has finally grown sick of me and is going to terminate me. I see him this week. I have been terminated previously and that is playing on my mind. My exT told me he would never leave, but definitely did. Should I be worried?
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I don't want to make you feel worse but therapists can change their mind in one session and decide to terminate you in the middle or on a voice mail or by phone. Don't ever put all your eggs in one basket. I made that mistake three times. The "I will never leave you is a joke". I don't know why or anyone else relies on that statement. It is hurt just waiting to happen. They really don't think that it means as much as you think it means. They change in an instant.