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Originally Posted by divine1966
To all honesty since two of you weren't married I don't believe you can burry him. It would have to be them. Or you have power of attorney? I certainly hope you aren't paying for his funeral. It is crazy they don't come see him and instead rely on you. What would they do if you weren't there?
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You know - you make a very good point!
I am the primary P.O.A., with his eldest as the secondary. I had been thinking that I did not have the
obligation to make all final arrangements. But I actually don't have any moral
right . . . and possibly no
legal right.
If they didn't claim the body, I would bury him. But they're not that empty of decency.
If I didn't exist, he would simply be in a nursing home. The VA here even offered to help place him in a veterans' home near them. They said that was fine. He was almost going to go . . . . then he thought better on it. He loves his apartment, which is handicap-accessible and very cute and comfortable. He decorated it all himself, when he could walk . . . and planted a garden outside the door. We are in a nice mild climate. I take him to all his appointments. He has a nice set-up . . . and so do they.