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Old Dec 20, 2016, 05:52 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
To all honesty since two of you weren't married I don't believe you can burry him. It would have to be them. Or you have power of attorney? I certainly hope you aren't paying for his funeral. It is crazy they don't come see him and instead rely on you. What would they do if you weren't there?
You know - you make a very good point!

I am the primary P.O.A., with his eldest as the secondary. I had been thinking that I did not have the obligation to make all final arrangements. But I actually don't have any moral right . . . and possibly no legal right.

If they didn't claim the body, I would bury him. But they're not that empty of decency.

If I didn't exist, he would simply be in a nursing home. The VA here even offered to help place him in a veterans' home near them. They said that was fine. He was almost going to go . . . . then he thought better on it. He loves his apartment, which is handicap-accessible and very cute and comfortable. He decorated it all himself, when he could walk . . . and planted a garden outside the door. We are in a nice mild climate. I take him to all his appointments. He has a nice set-up . . . and so do they.
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