She sounds like a total jerk.

It's the whole picture, though, rather than the fact she looks at her phone.

My therapist looks at texts in sessions if the sound goes off. I figure-if he allows me to text, and other clients, then he has to look at them. If he is booked back to back, when would he get to see them? I'd rather him look at texts in my session than disallow it.

I do shut the sound off on my phone during sessions though. And I get a bit irritated sometimes when he looks at texts more than once during a session. But-it's something I'm willing to tolerate, as it seems to be the norm now. At work, people in meetings look at their phones the whole time and text in meetings; even important, high-level ones.

On the whole, he is professional and very focused on me during sessions, so I don't have a problem with it in general as it doesn't happen often. However, it does become a problem if goes off in the middle of working through something traumatic. It's never happened as far as I can remember, but I would be upset about if that happened, I think.

Your therapist, otoh, seems to be treating you badly, as others have pointed out. She sounds disrespectful, unprofessional, and dismissive of you. I hope you don't put up with this any longer. Also, I'd be surprised if she was competent. I don't see how a therapist could be this professional AND be competent at the same time. Possible, but not likely. If that is the case, then she is not a safe person.

(((hugs)))

ps-concerned you questioned yourself about having a problem with this behavior. Where does that come from?