If you are this negative about others...well, I don't see you finding what you want.
You may be misinterpreting other's behaviors in light of your own emotional/mental state. To find others, you often start with chit chat, to feel each other out, and then move into more intimate/thoughtful discussion. I feel like you are automatically judging others as unworthy.
There is no way in the world someone can know you think it's "bossy" to knock on a window to make a request, or that you think it's "stupid" to chat about the weather.
I have met some very good people in casual, initially unimpressive exchanges.