These are some serious problems that should be addressed otherwise there's no indication that any of this will be any different in the future if the two of you get back together.

I think your wife would benefit greatly from individual therapy. And before actually getting back together I would first go to couples' counseling.


So in other words, based on the fear of possible future events, such as being cheated on, which are unknown, you would rather go back to what is predictable, even if unbearable?

I understand that you feel guilty for leaving the relationship while she is depressed, but honestly, you won't be able to alleviate her depression now any more than you could in the past.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees in life either way, whether you stay or go.

I sincerely wish you the best of all possible outcomes.