You know, it's such a mind-**** that they do this. My dad has cut me off too because of an argument between the two of us. We haven't talked since February when I called him to let him know I was going back to work and moving. No contact since then. Nothing on my birthday, nothing. I decided against sending him any cards for his birthday or any holidays. I prefer the no contact. He's toxic.

So a couple days ago he asks if my address is still the same. I replied yes. I was expecting to get a lawsuit. Wouldn't have surprised me. Instead he sent me some pillows my grandmother had made (she passed away a couple of years ago), and he sent a Hannukah card with an amazon gift card for $25. I really don't know what to think. I do not recall him sending me anything for my birthday. Also, in the past, cards and such from him have always been signed by him and my stepmom. This was just from him.

He lives in the same state. If I go out tomorrow and get a card and something to send to him, it should get to him during Hannukah. I just don't know. What does it mean that he sent me this gift? I think it has two meanings. I think he wants me to know he still cares and also wants me to feel guilty. (I know this man, I know his tactics.)

I don't know if I should reciprocate or not.

Any advice?

Seesaw