I always feel that by 'coming out' I call more attention to myself than I want to deal with! First, very seldom has anyone I come in contact with ever heard of personality disorders. Trying to give a condensed version is impossible AND I wonder if the poor person is plagued with trying to figure out how to 'deal' with my situation. It is nice to be able to let someone you frequently deal with know that it's 'you' not them!