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Originally Posted by BudFox
I think it's insane when a client ends up in a situation like this, and people confront them about whether continuing would have been any better. .
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I disagree with that in this situation because the thread started off with being very upset about being terminated,then about wanting closing sessions,even talk of reporting the therapist if that didn't happen,it did not happen and therapist was indeed reported,just as stated and intended.So 'asking'(not confronting,big diff in the two imho) seems pretty reasonable to me.
And I can't help but wonder if things would be totally different right now for the OP if he hadn't terminated,if she would still be going to sessions and soaking up the love and care that was previously enjoyed,but taken away so abruptly from her.That seems to be the central problem with all of this,the betrayal by former therapists,and the 'feeling' of betrayal once again,which has caused all of this,that's my perception and I am sorry if others don't see what I see.It is what it is.
It doesn't mean I am not sympathetic with the OP, because I am.But my perception is she was hurt so deeply,felt so very rejected and abandoned...again, and is making this therapist pay for it when it actuality it's a culmination of past experiences and this therapist doing the same was the icing on the cake for her.I actually feel bad for the man,I bet he genuinely cared for her and wanted to help her but due to circumstances beyond his control he had to terminate.And she continued contacting him while he was grieving the loss of his parent,and continued after being told not to.And just would not stop with all of it.
I am not into blaming the client,but if this is the 4 th time being abandoned by a therapist,then I feel that is what needs to be addressed.Is the OP crossing boundaries,demanding more than they are willing to give,is she controlling,manipulative?This is in no way a put down,it's just something that needs to be looked at and taken into consideration.
I am sorry,but this,to me,raises a huge red flag
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Well, I find that as time goes by I just want this man to face severe disciplinary action or be struck off. He would have to grovel big time if we meet for me to forgive him for the **** and pain he has put me through. He did not care to give one minute of thought to the pain and anguish he knew he would be landing on my head. For that he deserves to rot in hell. He is actually a weak and spineless person, that was evident all the way along. And not very bright to boot.
He can't be very bright if he can't work out which is best for him: either grovel in some closure sessions or lose my job as a psychologist as this client knows every single rule infringement I have done and will happily tell all.
Not the brightest bulb in the pack
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Does that not sound like revenge seeking behavior to anyone else?It sure does to me.