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Old Dec 22, 2016, 01:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Luce View Post
So, it sounds like it is time to pull out all the self care strategies you have to comfort yourself through these feelings.
Because, the reality is, you are not devastated. Your t wouldn't show you her boyfriend's picture. In terms of life trauma that is not devastating. I don't mean that in an invalidating way... I mean it in a reality checking way. the intensity of your triggered feelings is very real, and very painful. But the reality of the current moment is that you are safe. So what DBT / EMDR / grounding skills can you use to get yourself back to 'okay'?
Thank you, Luce.
I'm more hurt that she didn't want to discuss my feeling shut out. We've discussed it before. She immediately redirected me. Too abruptly. I know she's right but I think she handled it poorly.

I know there are skills to use. I know I'm not devastated. I'm depressed. I know the feelings will pass. I can read more of the mindfulness book T had me get, and meditate every day this week. I have yoga tomorrow which should help. I have friends. I want to forget about T but I can't. I also have chocolate in my house for self-soothing. I have to go to sleep now but I will probably cry. T is just trying to help me. I have to keep going and distract myself.
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