I read the article. I didn't find it helpful. I didn't cause that therapist 20 years ago to be a sex addict. I didn't know that. My repeating pattern is that I want a safe parent figure. I want to experience a safe place where I can talk and I can reveal and my pain can be seen. For some reason, it triggered two therapists to attempt massive 'rescuing' of me, which led to dumping me by not being able to cope. My fault. I shouldn't have been so upset and distressed.
This present one, it was all my fault again that I needed a father figure to feel the first beginnings of attachment. He went along with this. all my fault. He is professional and I am the client and it is my fault what happens in that room.
It was my fault that he kissed me whilst I was curled up sobbing and I got the shock of my life. But it was my fault he did it. I wanted love and care so it must be my fault. Funny how I didn't want kissing by my father figure.
anything else I should take the blame for? It was my fault that my therapist choose to send me gifts and presents and cards. It was my fault that he told me if he ever suddenly ended with me I could go round to his house and demand an explanation. I actually went round and left flowers and a card on his door - he has lost his father. It is my fault that I did that, I felt for him in his grief. I should not have left his a condolence card. I should not have left him flowers. I should have banged on his door and demanded an explanation from him like he told me. Wait a minute. If I had done what he told me to do, many of you here would be jumping on me like a ton of bricks. I didnt do what he told me to do but somehow that is also my fault.
Anyone else like to list how all this mess is actually my fault and me, the client is to blame?