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Originally Posted by retro_chic
Thanks again for all the replies!
I don't know why but I feel really uncomfortable about using the word "neglect". My parents try their best to do everything for me so to say that they were neglectful seems really cruel. I guess I'm still getting my head around all of this.
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Intentions don't negate harm caused though. I can mean very well, but still be accidentally stepping on your foot and causing you pain. Or I didn't have money for warm enough clothing so my child was cold.
Parenting isn't something intuitive in my opinion. If one doesn't know how to show emotional warmth, due to one's upbringing, it's really hard to learn otherwise.
I come from a Asian culture where children are seen as property sometimes, and love isn't shown in affectionate words or praise or emotional connection or "I love you", but by making sure there's food on the table, medicine and tuition for studies. Very undemonstrative despite how many Asian parents love their children.
Still can result in emotional neglect due to ignorance due to their own upbringing, working long hours for survival and being too exhausted to meet the child's emotional needs, good intentions but misattuned etc