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Originally Posted by CrispApple
It doesn't mean I am not sympathetic with the OP, because I am.But my perception is she was hurt so deeply,felt so very rejected and abandoned...again, and is making this therapist pay for it when it actuality it's a culmination of past experiences and this therapist doing the same was the icing on the cake for her.I actually feel bad for the man,I bet he genuinely cared for her and wanted to help her but due to circumstances beyond his control he had to terminate.And she continued contacting him while he was grieving the loss of his parent,and continued after being told not to.And just would not stop with all of it.
I am not into blaming the client,but if this is the 4 th time being abandoned by a therapist,then I feel that is what needs to be addressed.Is the OP crossing boundaries,demanding more than they are willing to give,is she controlling,manipulative?This is in no way a put down,it's just something that needs to be looked at and taken into consideration.
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Sorry but this does not pass the BS test nor the logic test. Therapists are paid to be relationship managers. If the relationship fails, they are responsible. It's not a free-for-all. When it ruptures you can't just pretend the two parties are on equal terms.
If some people cant handle the cognitive dissonance that comes from hearing that someone has faced repeated woundings in therapy, and that this repeated failure is primarily a reflection on the institution of therapy, and they feel compelled to reprimand and blame the victim, i think it's time for a look in the mirror.
BTW, implying that OP is too emotional to be objective and therefore needs the guidance of the therapy masters here, man that is condescending.