Hello Dylan: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

I can't really tell you what's going on with Dorothy. Maybe she's just a person who tells people what she thinks they want to hear. Perhaps she's lonely. And telling you she is asexual was a way of creating a basis for a relationship that otherwise probably would not occur. Or perhaps Dorothy would like to be asexual. Perhaps she even considers herself to be asexual. But if she's viewing X-rated videos on her phone, & asking to look at your breasts, I don't see how she could be considered to be asexual, except perhaps in her own mind.

The thing is, we never really know what's going on in another person's mind. And trying to decipher that is simply a recipe for frustration, in my opinion. I think all one can do is to go by what one observes. You know what you have experienced with Dorothy. So, based on that, I think you simply have to decide if she is someone with whom you can continue to have a relationship. Only you know the answer to that question.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!