Some people think she's a good enough therapist. Apparently 'good enough' is 'telling your client your boyfriend looks like George Clooney'. I think that's setting the bar really very low indeed, but people get to decide what they put up with. As I've said, I'm shocked at the things people put up with on this forum simply because they can't imagine not seeing their therapists. Personally, no therapist is worth my self respect.

I think that when you tell her how that hurt you, she'll enjoy it. She already knows it hurt you. She saw it hurt you the moment she said it. And, more than that, I believe she said it to hurt you. It's fun for her. The same way she enjoys your feelings of inadequacy around weight, dress, artistic prowess. This therapist has a client who comes in week after week and pays to tell her how wonderful she is. That must be very gratifying for her. Someone thinks the world of her and no matter what she does, or how many barbs she throws their way (even a twelve year old girl knows that saying your boyfriend is super hot is a good way to make other girls jealous), keeps coming back, just begging for attention.

The alternative is to believe that your experienced therapist has less social awareness than a tween. She's either incompetent or malevolent, and I don't think either of those things is 'good enough'.

Some people seem unable to process that some therapists are narcissists who just love people who come to them wounded and ready to worship them. And of course, these narcissists have to pretend to be caring and loving and healing, because that's the way they hook the client. Once the client is hooked though, that's when the games begin. It makes total sense that the client would love the therapist. You can't abuse someone who doesn't love you! You have to make them love you first so they'll keep coming back to be poked and prodded.

If you think paying a woman to tell you that her boyfriend looks like George Clooney is healing for you, then that's all well and good. From a distance however, this looks like anything other than a therapeutic relationship. It looks like one of those high school mean girls relationships where the popular girl keeps a less attractive, less popular girl around for the sole purpose of bolstering her ego.