Yes, granite, you were treated horribly by the mother. I want you to never go anywhere near her either. She is just plain mean to you. Maybe when you have done some healing it will be safe for you to interact. Good for you for staying with your t. It sounds as though it was very hard. I agree with your t that the mother was terrible to brother as well. No kind parent would make a kid do that chore for a sibling.

But I also understand being afraid of not pleasing a parent. The horror of not measuring up can be huge.

I hope you are able to spend the holiday with kind people.